What is the Difference Between Full Swap and Soft Swap?

Everyone in the swinger lifestyle has at least once faced the question of whether they are a full swap couple or a soft swap couple. Even the word "once" became scarce. This is a question posed to the other party in almost every swinger activity. If you're new to the lifestyle and you're not sure how to answer this question, or if you've never been to a swinger party before and want to learn about lifestyle lingo, this article is for you. In this article, we will try to deal with full and soft swap topics in detail.

The reason why there are different types of swapping like these is that couples have certain rules in their relationships about the lifestyle. Before each couple starts this lifestyle, they talk to each other and determine the rules and the lines that should not be crossed. These lines determine what they will do at swinger parties or any swinger event. Therefore, things like full swap, soft swap appear into the swingers world.

What does full swap mean in the swinger lifestyle?

As you can see in the title, we will first start with what full swapping is. We can explain this in the simplest way just like this: couples having sexual intercourse with the other couple, in line with their wishes and consent. This includes vaginal and/or anal sex, and oral sex.

In full swap you can fulfill all your sexual desires. If you find harmony with the couple you’re together with, you will have no reason not to feel like you are on top of the world. You will add more spice to your already great sexual life and you will probably experience things that you will never forget in your life. There is no reason not to have your first experience when you feel ready for it. Of course, there are a few things to consider before that. Don't worry, we'll talk about them briefly as well later in this section.

It usually takes a certain time for couples to prepare themselves for this. This process usually starts with making soft swaps when the couple is just getting started with the lifestyle. After a certain period of time, when they start to feel more comfortable and get used to sharing their beds with other couples, they start doing full swaps if they want to. Of course, there are exceptions to this situation. Some couples may also start full swapping directly. It all depends on the communication between the couples, the relationship, their red lines, and what they desire most.

Well, before starting full swapping, let's look at what you should pay attention to. First, most importantly, you should consider your relationship with your partner. You should have a mutual discussion on this issue and come to a common decision. You have to decide what to do and what not to do during sexual intercourse with the other party. You must identify the red lines that you will not cross no matter the situation.

If you or your partner will be uncomfortable with the other person having vaginal or anal sex with another person, or if this will negatively affect your relationship, or if it will cause some problems between you and your partner, this may not be the right choice for you. We recommend that you do not decide to do a full swap until you are completely sure of everything, as such negative situations will negatively affect not only you and your relationship, but also the other couple. As we have just mentioned, this is not something to be decided at once. Just the contrary, as you continue to attend swinger parties and events and become more comfortable with the lifestyle, as you watch and see different couples over time, an image in your mind about what full swap is. Then, you make the necessary decision in line with that image.

Another thing you need to pay attention to is that the wishes and desires of the other couple match your wishes and that they respect the red lines you set with your partner. Therefore, before starting your bed adventure, it is best to share them with the other party and also ask the other party about their wishes and red lines.

Considering all this, full swap is something that will add a lot of color to your sex life when everyone in the room is respectful of the other's feelings and boundaries. In addition, just because you've already done it once, it doesn't become a necessity at the swinger parties you attend to. If you want, you can keep doing it, but if you don't feel like it that specific day, you can as well just do a soft swap. Remember, in lifestyle, everything depends on your wishes and your consent.

What does soft swap mean in the swinger lifestyle?

When we come upon to the subject of soft swap, we thought it would be better if we started by explaining who prefers it more than what it is. Soft swapping is mostly preferred by those who are new to the swinger lifestyle. Apart from these, couples who want to spice up their sex life but do not want their partner to have full sexual intercourse with another person also prefer it. It should be noted that we mentioned these because the people who fall into these two categories make up the majority of those who prefer soft swaps.

So what is this soft swap thing? Contrary to what we told before, it is a type of swapping in which couples do not have full sexual intercourse with the other party. We don't see vaginal or anal sex in it. Apart from that, there are still controversial and opposing views on oral sex. But when we look at the swinger community in general, we can easily see that the majority of them argue that there can be oral sex in soft swaps For this reason, we decided to include oral sex in this section in our article.

In short, a soft swap is when a couple engages in sexual activities with the other couple without penetration. That includes kissing, making love, touching, fingering and such. As in all matters, its limits are entirely up to the couple. That's why we can't say for sure what is included or not. For example, some couples do not even include fingering. Therefore, we think that it is enough and okay if you know soft swap briefly as swapping without penetration.

Soft swap may seem more acceptable compared to the other option, but when we look at the surveys and do a short research, we can see that both are highly preferred, however, only because their acceptability by the society is different, one of them is mentioned less.

Soft or Full swap? Which is your choice?

Finally, we will talk about the differences and similarities between the full and soft swap that we have explained to you. You must have understood that the biggest difference between these is penetrative sex. While this is the main difference, we must say that there are of course many more differences.

Another important difference is what couples can and cannot accept in their relationship. To explain it more clearly and explicitly, what will negatively affect the relationship and what will not, is a very important factor in whether couples prefer full or soft swaps.

While watching your partner make love to someone else or have oral sex can be very sexy for a person, watching them have penetrative sex can be an irritating and emotionally negative image. For this reason, each couple's sex lives are completely unique to them, and just like fingerprints, no two are exactly alike. Every relationship has different lines, different rules. Because no relationship is the same, different couples' expectations from swinging can be completely different.

As well, not all full swaps are the same. While some couples include both anal and vaginal sex, some couples may choose only one of the two. This is also the same for soft swaps. As we mentioned above, some couples include oral sex, while others may not; or some may not even include fingering.

As a result, all you have to do is clearly define your desires and rules and choose the one that suits you between full or soft swap. Then spice up your sex life by finding a couple who will respect your wishes and boundaries.