Swinger Lifestyle Terminology

When you are getting into swinging, there are some specific terms that you will come across. To help you out, we will share all those common terminologies and their meanings. You can follow this as a guide and learn how to get the most out of swinging.

MMF vs MFM

M refers to Male and F refers to Female. The exact positioning of these letters are important. Letters that touch imply sexual interaction between those genders. MMF refers to a situation where bisexual men have sex with each other and a female partner. MFM refers to a threesome, where both men only have sexual encounters with the female partner.

LS (Swinger Lifestyle)

LS refers to the lifestyle of people who engage with swinging. It sounds like “Ellis”. If you are trying to ask someone whether he/she is into swinging, you may ask, “Do you know about Ellis?”

Unicorn

Unicorn is a female swinger, who comes as a single. Most new couples are getting attracted to unicorns. In fact, unicorns are highly sought after in the world of swinging. On the other hand, single male swingers are identified as bulls.

Unicorn hunters

Unicorn hunters are the swinger couples who are looking for single females. In most instances, new couples who get into the world of swinging are the unicorn hunters. These couples often adhere to the "one penis policy" in their swinging lifestyles. Insecurities around the male partner is the main reason on why you can find lots of unicorn hunters. On the other hand, it is also possible to find lots of women who prefer to explore the boundaries of bisexuality.

Vanilla

Vanilla refers to an event or a person who is adhering to a traditional sexual procedure. In other words, they are not into swinging at all. You can use this word to call most popular who are living out there in the society. They don’t think about getting into swinging at all. Instead, they just prefer to engage with mainstream sexual activities.
You will also be able to use the word vanilla to describe sex, which are not associated with any other adjective. For example, hotwife, submission, domination, bondage, and orgies are not usually in the expectations of an average person when it comes to sex. Therefore, you may call these activities as not vanilla activities.

Full swap

Full swap is where a swinger couple goes ahead and have penetrative sex with the other couple at the same time.

Soft swap

Soft swap is where a couple engages in foreplay activities such as oral sex with another swinger couple. They do not engage with any form of penetrative sex, including vaginal sex or anal sex.

Hall pass

A hall pass is a situation where one partner is allowed to go ahead and have sex with a swinger couple, without the presence of the partner.

New relationship energy

This is the state of mind that exists at the beginning of a romantic and a sexual relationship. It usually involves enhanced sexual and emotional excitement along with receptivity. If one or both parties are not ready for this change in their partner if he or she enters a serious sexual relationship, it could put the relationship in jeopardy.

Comparison

Comparison is the feeling of joy when a partner gets pleasure from a different sexual or romantic relationship. This is the opposite of jealousy. Comparison is something common among people who have a hot-husband or a hotwife.

Hotwife

A woman who has sexual relations with other men with her husband's approval. Often the husband watches or sometimes joins.

Cuckold

Cuckold is a man who loves to see his female partner having sexual pleasure with another man.

Cuckquean

Cuckquean is a woman who loves to see her partner having sexual pleasure with another woman.

Stag / Vixen

A couple takes part in “hotwife” activities and the husband is not humiliated throughout the act.

On-premise

A party or a club is called as on-premise if it is allowed to have sexual activities on the same location.

Off-premise

A party or a club is called as off-premise if it is not allowed to have sexual activities on the same location.

Bi-curious

Bi-curious are people who are heterosexual or homosexual but are interested in having sexual intercourse with people outside of the sex of their partners in general. Their difference is that they don't directly like people outside of their preference. instead, they only have an interest and curiosity towards them.

Dom

The term dom is a shortened version of the word dominator or dominant. dom is the term used for people who are dominant in a sexual relationship. Although the term dom is used for both sexes in some rare cases, there is a separate version for females.

Domme

This is the female version of "dom". It is the term used for women who are dominant in sexual intercourse. And is exceedingly common.

Polyamory

Polyamory is the name given to a person or couple having a sexual or emotional relationship with more than one person. As we mentioned, whether this relationship is sexual or emotional, it is called polyamory. Although some sources argue that only emotional or only sexual intercourse can be called polyamory, polyamory is a term used for both.

Same room

This term refers to performing all swinger activities in front of each other while in the same room with both individuals. Couples and singles are all in the same room and swaps take place in their presence.

Different room

This term means that swaps are made in different rooms, as opposed to same room. different room does not mean that the couple outside the room is unaware of what is happening in the room. Like other swaps, in this case, he or she has knowledge and consent.

DDF

This term is an abbreviation of drug and disease free phrase. It means that there should not be any drug use or contagious disease in the opposite party to be in contact with.

Back door

This term swinger describes that sexual activity includes anal intercourse.

Key party

Key party: this is a kind of swinger party. At this party, couples exchange car or house keys between each other and this is how they decide who gets to have sex with whom. Can be organized in different ways. The pairs are sometimes chosen completely at random, and sometimes within certain rules.